The most dangerous person in your life might be your best friend

The most dangerous person in your life might be your best friend. As you read that statement, I know that you got a little bit angry.  You are saying to yourself, “My best friend isn’t dangerous.  She supports me through thick and thin.  She would never hurt me.”  Are you sure about that?

One of the biggest reasons that people remain anchored to their past instead of moving forward towards their future is their associations.  They change everything in their lives including their bad habits, negative thinking and poor decision-making but continue to hang out with the same group of people.  More often than not, these so-called friends are the chains that are keeping you shackled to your past.  They have no desire to change their lives so why would you think that want you to better yourself?

The majority of these people will not intentionally hurt you.  It’s their actual character traits and their habits that will have a negative effect on your life. So, what do these people look like?  Most of them don’t have a certain look, but they do have many of the following traits:

• Constantly speak negative words
• See no light at the end of the tunnel
• Allow failure to be an option
• Don’t believe in dreams (yours or theirs)
• Want to “make” money rather than “earn” it
• Always have an opinion that focuses on the negative
• Become complacent in their lives and are satisfied with it
• Make decisions that result in failure 99% of the time

Have you ever heard the old saying, “Pigs don’t know pigs stink?”  Basically, it means that you don’t even realize that you are hanging out with people that are going nowhere in life, because you haven’t stepped outside your circle of influence to take a look from the outside.  If you did, you would likely see your friends rolling around in the same old pig pen day in and day out.  Talking about the same slop that they have talked about for years and allowing their trashy view of the world to dictate their success or lack of it.

Is that harsh?  Yes, but it’s the truth.  How do you expect to become who you believe that you are in life if you hang out with people that are constantly pushing you off the mountain when you reach the top?  Here’s an eye-opening exercise for you.  Take a look at the last ten people that you dialed on your cellular phone or home phone if you don’t have a cell phone.  Think of all of their daily habits, yearly incomes, relationships, goals and overall success in life.  Now, average those things out.  Do you like what you see?  I hope so, because that’s where you will be in five years if you don’t change your current associations.

If you are in the small percentage of people in the world that have a great mastermind team that is made up of positive, supportive individuals, then kudos to you.  Unfortunately, most people don’t fall into that category.  Most people are surrounded by so-called friends that are holding them back from achieving their Why in life.  Do you have these people on your Mastermind Team?  If so, what are you going to do about it?  You have two choices.

You can allow those people to control YOUR destiny with their negative

opinions, failure mindset and inability to dream.

OR

You can love them, leave them and show them.  What does that mean?  You simply continue to care for them as a friend, associate, etc., but you no longer allow them to negatively impact your life.

If they don’t like attending personal development seminars, then don’t invite them.  If they don’t like your positive mastermind team members, then stop allowing them to join your mastermind team gatherings.  How do you show them?  You forge forward towards the achievement of your Why despite any obstacle that you encounter.  Those people will start to see that you are serious and nothing will stop you!

Here’s your fifth challenge.  Write this down – I am going to stop allowing others to steal my dream.  I am leaving my negative associations behind.  I am building a mastermind team of true champions that believe in me and my dream. I want you to confirm that to your spirit by saying it out loud over and over until you believe it.