10 myths about women: Go figure

We desire bigger breasts

Nope. Bigger isn't always better. No woman wants to be spoken to with the eyes firmly focused below her face.

We dress up to impress men

We dress either for our own confidence levels or to upstage other women. Even lingerie is worn so we feel sexy.

We always want to share our feelings

Post-coital, men aren't the only ones who want to watch TV or sleep. We don't want to know you felt hurt when you were behaving like a buffoon and we called you on it. You did it. We told you off. Now get over it.

If we are high strung, it's obvious we are PMSing

If a woman is emotionally high strung, it's because it's incomprehensible to her as to why she can multitask and her man can either change the bulb or take a bath or order the groceries, but not all three. And definitely not together.

We have a weaker libido than men

Men may have a stronger libido at 18 but as all women (at least the ones I know) have discovered, men seem to lose their "willingness to perform" by their mid-30s.

We are clingy and don't believe in space

We may want your full attention when you meet us but spending an entire day with you in our faces? No way. Also, our emails and our private conversations are not for your eyes and ears. We too need girls' night-outs.

Sex is about intimacy. Satisfaction is secondary.

Intimacy is all well and good, but if you want us to give, you've got to give some yourself. Also it would be nice if you educated yourself a bit on the female anatomy.

We want our men to be possessive

Boys, the wrestling pit is in the akhara, not the bar. We'd rather have a man who thumps his opponent with his wit.

We fantasise about our dream wedding from an early age

Only if it involves George Clooney or Brad Pitt. It's about the fantasy groom, not the fantasy wedding.

After 30, we are obsessed with our biological clocks

Modern science has ensured that women can have children even at the age of 42. The point is, will you have the energy to be fathers at a later age?

TCS plans to recruit 50,000 employees in 2011

The country's largest IT services provider, Tata Consultancy Services, plans to recruit about 50,000 employees in 2011, the same figure as this year's, a top company official said today."This year we will add 50,000 people and next year we will add the same (number)," Tata Consultancy Services Managing Director and CEO N Chandrasekaran told reporters here. He said 30,000 of the 50,000 persons recruited were in the first quarter of this year.

Stating that there are good prospects in the overseas market, he said that TCS would recruit more number of candidates for overseas operations, but did not give exact numbers. "We plan to increase the number everywhere (in the world)," he said. Currently, TCS has a presence in the US, Latin America, China, the Middle East and European countries."In the first year of our operations in China we quickly recruited 1,000 candidates but it took us two years to add 200 more," Chandrasekaran said.

He said the company preferred to maintain the attrition rate at the industry lowest rate of 14 per cent. "Last two-three years it was 9-9.5 per cent. I would not like to see any kind of escalation (in 14 per cent..)", he said.Chandrasekaran was here to announce the first batch of candidates for TCS Research Fellowship Programme launched by them to promote research.He said TCS planned to fund about 200 doctoral candidates over five years to take up PhD programmes in academic institutions across India. However, he declined to comment on the funds they planned to spend for this programme.

On future plans, Chandrasekaran said they would soon make an official announcement of a new product in Small and Medium Enterprises. A similar launch was also planned in Business Process Outsourcing platform. Plans are also on to launch services in healthcare platform globally.

"We have launched the health care service in three top notch hospitals and they are already gone live. We want to launch it internationally...", he said.

Chandrasekaran termed the exchange rate as a major challenge and market volatility as a "big problem."

On the Rs 1,000 crore Passport Seva Project joint venture with External Affairs Ministry,he said it was doing very well. "It is being rolled out in phases and we will roll out in 77 sites. I hope in another 5-6 months we will cover pan India".

On implementation,TCS would offer end-to-end services, after which the Ministry expects issuing passports to be completed in three working days and passports under Tatkal scheme to be dispatched he same day.

TCS has about 1.77 lakh employees globally.

Management Tip of the Day: Cultivate Your Proactive Brain

The Management Tip of the Day offers quick, practical management tips and ideas from Harvard Business Review and HBR.org (http:\\www.hbr.org). Any opinions expressed are not endorsed by Reuters."Studies have shown that a good memory helps you better navigate the future. And in business, anticipating and negotiating future demands is an asset.A proactive brain uses details from past experiences to make analogies with your current surroundings. It then helps you determine where you are and envision future possibilities.We are all born with proactive brains, but these three things can help improve brain performance:

1. Give it a lot to work with. Create a richer pool of information to draw from. Expose your brain to diverse experiences and situations.

2. Borrow from others. Find out as much as you can about others' experiences by talking, interacting with, and reading about other peoples' lives.

3. Let your mind wander. Undisturbed time gives your brain the space it needs to recall and recombine past experiences in ways that help you anticipate the future."

- Today's management tip was adapted from "How Your Brain Connects the Future to the Past" by Jeff Brown and Mark Fenske.

Being good with numbers 'can make you rich'

Couples who score well on a simple test of numeracy ability are more likely to earn more wealth by middle age than those who score poorly, suggests a study.Researchers found that when both spouses answered three numeracy-related questions correctly, family wealth averaged 1.7 million dollars, while among couples where neither spouse answered any questions correctly the average household wealth was 200,000 pounds.Numeracy is the ability to reason with numbers and other mathematical concepts, and are skills typically learned during school."We examined several cognitive skills and found that a simple test that checks a person's numeracy skills was a good predictor of who would be a better family financial decision maker," said James P. Smith, of the Labor Markets and Demographic Studies at the RAND Corporation, a nonprofit research organization.Researchers found that choosing the wrong person as a family's primary financial decision maker can have consequences.While families choose the less-numerate spouse less than 20 percent of the time, when this does happen total household wealth is lower.Researchers said the skills needed to make successful investment choices are among the most cognitively demanding that a family has to make, especially as they get older and assume greater control of decisions about their wealth, pensions and health care.

Vegetarians at risk of brain disorders

Vegetarians are at an early risk of mental disorder such as dementia and alzheimer's as they develop a Vitamin B-12 deficiency, doctors said here Wednesday.Fish, shellfish, meat, eggs, milk and their by-products are some of the biggest sources of Vitamin B-12.'Deficiency of Vitamin B-12 can reduce working capacity of the brain and result in progressive memory loss that has an impact on day to day activities,' Praveen Gupta, consultant neurologist at Artemis Health Institute in Gurgaon, told IANS.'Since majority of the Indian population is vegetarian and milk consumption has reduced considerably, they are more prone to early onset of dementia. Those who suffer from lactose intolerance are also at risk,' Gupta explained.

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), India had nearly 3.5 million alzheimer's and dementia patients in the year 2000.'We see at least 30 patients under the age of 40 every month -- suffering from memory loss and other manifestations due to deficiency of vitamin B-12. Once diagnosed, these patients respond very well to vitamin B-12 supplements,' Gupta added.Forgetting day to day activities, names of familiar people, frequent irritability, panic episodes and depression are some of the common symptoms of the mental disorder.The disease can be diagnosed with a simple blood test, say doctors.WHO estimates that there are currently about 18 million people worldwide suffering from Alzheimer's. The figure is projected to nearly double by 2025.

Five Investment products in current times

Young investors have varied objectives while choosing their investments - buying a home, purchasing a car, their child's education, early retirement plan etc are some of the goals individuals set for themselves early in life. Each of the goals may require a specific type of investment. Further, it is important to time your investments in such a manner that they pay returns at a time when you need the money. For example, if A wants to buy a car on loan and wants to repay his EMIs using the returns on his investments, then his investments should pay him returns equal to the amount of his monthly installments. So, if he invests in a FD, then the interest amount that A earns on his FD should equal the amount of monthly installment that A pays towards his car loan.

It is important to set your goals from your investment so that your investment can work accurately for you. For example, one must know the time and amount of money that he / she will need in the future. At the same time it is important to evaluate the risk involved in the investment as well as the amount of returns and amount of initial investment required. Say B would like to invest a lump sum now and time his returns to pay for his child's marriage somewhere after 10 years, he needs to choose an appropriate investment. An FD would be safe but returns may be lower. Stock investments are likely to pay higher returns but the risk involved is greater.

Here are 5 recommended investment options in current times:

1. ETFs

This is a relatively new path of investment and one is likely to have the fear of the unknown. However, considering the returns that ETFs have fetched for its investors, it is certainly amongst the top 5 investment options of this era. Much like stocks, an investment in ETF should be for the long run. Here is a table of popular ETFs in India:

Commodity ETFs especially Gold ETFs have done very well in India. ETFs are yet an untapped market amongst individual investors. However, we would recommend them as investment with high earning potential and also an investment type that has different source, like a commodity ETF can have its source in agriculture.

Name of ETF	Index	Largest Sector	Expense Ratio
PIN	Indus India Index	Energy	0.78%
INP	MSCI India Total Return	Financial	0.89%
EPI	Wisdom Tree India Earnings Index	Financial	0.88%
INDY	S&P CNX Nifty Index	Financial	0.89%

2. Gold

Gold is a high return and traditionally favored investment option and stands good in most economic conditions. Even during times of recession, gold prices increased at an average rate of 19.30 percent in 2009 and 12.5 percent in 2010. Here is a table of changes in the prices of gold in the past 5 years:-

An investor can buy gold as a long term investment. Long term goals like your child's marriage are well covered by investments in gold. You can also use 24 karat gold coins/chips to make jewelry for the wedding. Or you may sell the gold and use the money to meet any other wedding expenses.

Year	Change in Gold Price (%)
2005	24.2
2006	20.8
2007	16.5
2008	28.8
2009	19.3
2010	12.5

3. Fixed Deposits

This is another safe investment with reliable and known returns. One can invest in FDs with a predefined goal for its returns. One knows the amount of returns as well as the timing of returns on investment in case of an FD. Hence one can reliably plan expenses and time them with the FD maturity date. For example, you can plan your vacation by using the returns on your investment in FDs. FDs are a good investment option to match with repayment of loans. Interest amount of FDS can be timed with repayment of loan installments. So, if you want to buy a car or two-wheeler on loan, you can invest in FDs and match the interest amount with loan installments, either in whole, or part. On the other hand, you can time your purchase to make the down payment towards the vehicle from the proceeds of a FD

In case you are willing to take higher risk, floating rate FDs may be an option for you. In a growing economy, a floating rate FD has a higher earning potential in comparison to traditional FDs.

4. Mutual Funds

Mutual Funds are another 'must have' in your investment portfolio. The SIP system enables investors to take modest steps into mutual fund investments. You need not invest a lump sum - one can invest an amount of Rs. 500 per month only under most SIP plans of mutual fund houses. Since experts handle your money, mutual fund investments are less risky as compared to stocks. They also have a large earning potential. However, it is difficult to predict the amount of returns. It is therefore difficult to time your investment for an exact amount of return.

5. Stocks

As compared to fixed deposits, investments in equity, has on an average paid 26.5 percent higher returns in 5 years. Even for a longer term, investment in stocks have paid higher returns even in comparison to real estate and gold. Here is a comparison of investment in stocks against other options:

Nature of Investment	% Returns after 5 Years	% Returns after 10 Years
Real Estate	30%	14%
Gold	10%	7%
Bank FDs	8.50%	12.50%
Equity	35%	16%

Equity investments are good for long term goals like retirement savings, purchasing real estate or buying a car. Mr. A has stocks in a reputed company that earned him high dividends and bonus shares over time. He could pay for his Europe trip through the funds he got from selling these shares. Z used the money from selling his stocks towards the down payment of his vacation home! Now all he has to manage from his salary is his EMI.

14 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy

It's amazing that the divorce rate in the United States is estimated at 50%.  It's actually pretty sad too.  People are so quick to just exit out of a relationship without even trying.  But here's a theory - how about learning to keep things happy before problems arise, learning small everyday things that can keep little stresses away?  Isn't that a novel idea?   I thought so, which is why I created this list of items that have helped me personally.  I'm not saying that I have the fairytale relationship but after 13 years I have learned that the small yet simple gestures seem work well.

1. Communicate-not just about your feelings- but about your day.  Share stories with one another about what is going on at work or in a friend's life; share what you saw on the news or in a magazine with your significant other if you found it interesting.  Discussing regular day to day occurrences is just as important as staying in tune with each others' feelings.  It keeps you in tune with your spouse on a daily basis.

2. Take showers together- it doesn't have to be sexual!  My husband and I have done this from the beginning of our relationship, did it start out sexual?  Probably.  But over time it became an intimate thing, just extra time that we can spend together catching up on the day- it just happens that we are naked and in the shower!

3. Go to the park and swing, slide or just play-it's a young and fun thing to do.  It keeps you playful and is a great way to relieve stress.  Real life can get so with overwhelming with work, kids, bills, laundry, chores- sometimes a play break is what's needed to alleviate all of that, even if it's only for half an hour.

4. Take walks-morning walks are a great way to start your day, not a morning person?  Take an evening walk.  Getting fresh air and exercise together is good for your health and the health of your relationship.  Walking relieves stress, keeps you fit and allows quality time to be spent together.

5. Date nights-put everything on hold for an hour or two and plan on just doing something alone with your spouse.  It can be dinner, a walk, the mall, whatever, just make the time for just the two of you with no one else around, catch up on your day or week or just joke around and have fun.  But making time for just the two of you is important.

6. Play video games or wrestle-a healthy dose of competition is always good and it can be an entertaining way to not only have fun but a great stress buster as well.  Just don't take it too seriously and be a sore loser because that would defeat the whole purpose.

7. Have sex-even if you don't want to, you need to keep the sexual chemistry between you and your significant other alive.  Being intimate and showing your love for one another is a significant part of your union.

6 Ways To Be a Star at Work

Have you dreamt of being ‘Employee of the year’, but didn’t know how to get there? iDiva comes to your rescue! Here are some tried and tested tips on how to grab that coveted spot

Always dress well 

So it’s one of those days when you simply don’t feel like dressing up and a casual kurta is all you can muster. And then bam! You have a meeting with the big boss, who is wondering who you are and why you’re here. So look presentable not just for that surprise meeting, but also for the rare sighting of a handsome man who might just join you at that meeting!

Your friends love you, but everyone at work doesn’t have to 

Practical studies and life’s experiments have proven that a person only has about a handful of really good friends who you can trust with your life. At work, do what you’re expected to: work. Even if you feel like it’s your second home, there’s no need to start another family here! You’ll have some friends and some foes, but be realistic, not everyone is going to like you and vice versa because they’re only here to work, make money and go home.

Go on vacation; no one likes a grumpy employee 

Aren’t you beaming already? Going on a vacation is like being happily lost in the magic that unfolds in discovering any new place. It offers you a chance to leave all the stress and baggage of work behind and enjoy some memorable moments, hopefully without your phone! Not only does it calm your frayed nerves, a holiday will also helps you re-energise your system to work better when you’re back. 

Call your mistakes learning lessons 

People make mistakes all the time, but mistakes are often forgiven and forgotten if treated as learning lessons. The first thing you do if and when you make a mistake is to own up and take responsibility. It’ll not only imply that you’re aware of what you did, but it’ll also earn you some respect and keep you from faltering again. So feel free to have some blonde moments; just be sure to learn from them.

Provide solutions 

Being the damsel in distress only works in films, so instead of posing problems or coming up with questions, think of solutions in advance. For example, if you’re working on a shoot and your model ditches you a day before, don’t go whining to your boss about it. Instead, start fixing the problem instantly. Call your contacts who will help and find a model. Then go to your boss and explain how you saved the day. Then, turn sideways and wait for a pat on the back!

Cry in the restroom 

Women have a love/hate relationship with tears; sometimes we cry in frustration, sometimes it’s comforting. However, why go and display this personal relationship at work? People who display their tears are often seen as weaklings, so if you want to cry, go to the restroom! You’ll soon see people whispering, “She’s such a strong girl; she handles things so gracefully. She’s my hero!” Soon, you’ll be crowned ‘Employee of the year’.

Indian Spices Help You Lose Weight

India, particularly South India, is known for its spices: cinnamon, pepper, cardamom, turmeric, red pepper, among others. These aromatic spices have long been used to cure common ailments and are in fact, in Indian tradition, hailed as “medicines of the kitchen”.The west has woken up to this fact – some of these spices are now being sold in tablet form to help alleviate symptoms of many lifestyle diseases like diabetes, hypertension and cholesterol build-up.Super foods like kale and broccoli are not easily available in India – if you don’t count supermarkets. To keep off weight, improve absorption of sugar into the bloodstream or reduce harmful cholesterol, adding or increasing the amount of these spices in your diet will go a long way in helping you feel light and energetic.However, do take note that a doctor’s advice is of utmost importance before you increase your intake of these five spices. Excess intake might lead to other complications.

Five hours of sleep enough for women

Women who manage to get between five and six-and-a-half hours of sleep every night are more likely to live longer, a new study has claimed.

Researchers at the San Diego School of Medicine found that women those who slept for between five and six-and-a-half hours a night had the longest survival rates.

While adults are advised to sleep for seven to nine hours every day to stay healthy, the researchers found that those who get slightly less than the recommended amount tend to outlive those who sleep much more.

The findings, they said, would help dismiss the long-held belief that people aren't getting enough sleep, the Daily Mail reported.

The scientists, who monitored 459 elderly women in San Diego for 14 years (since 1995) to try and establish a link between sleep and mortality, found that those who slept for between five and six-and-a-half hours daily had the longest survival rates.

In their first study they worked out peoples' sleeping habits using wrist activity monitors, which are able to tell whether a person is awake or asleep by how much they move and then count up the overall hours of sleep a night.

Last year the researchers tried to get back in touch with all the women 14 years later to find out whether they were still alive. They established that those who had more than six and a half hours sleep a night or less than five were far less likely to be alive today.

Professor Daniel Kripke, who led the study, said: "The surprise was that when sleep was measured objectively, the best survival was observed among women who slept 5 to 6.5 hours.

"Women who slept less than five hours a night or more than 6.5 hours were less likely to be alive at the 14-year follow-up."

Professor Kripke said their study should allay some people's fears that they're not getting enough sleep. He added: "This means that women who sleep as little as five to six-and-a-half hours have nothing to worry about since that amount of sleep is evidently consistent with excellent survival. That is actually about the average measured sleep duration for San Diego women."

Long term studies show that those who drop down to five hours or fewer face a 70 per cent extra risk of dying from all causes. The new study is published in journal Sleep.